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Saturday, December 20, 2008

Going Into Business - Always An Option

With the current economic downturn and with many doomsayers predicting that the economy will not be improving any time soon, expect a lot of people losing their jobs and new graduates not being able to find jobs. But in danger lies opportunity...this may be a good time to invest -- if you know what to invest in. Franchises have been darlings of the small entrepreneurs mainly because they make setting up a business easier than just starting from scratch, unlike what our merchant forefathers did. My grandfathers were from farming communities in China who set out to build businesses in the Philippines. The difference between them is that one was able to make something big, the other's business was sold as soon as his health failed (and I do not know if it survived the decades). They both had to leave their families and everything familiar and start with almost zero knowledge of what they were going into -- basically a trial and error thing. With franchises, the process is simplified as the franchise owners already did the trial and error. With the franchise package, the complete knowledge and setup of the business is already explained in detail. All you need to do is follow their business plan.

Buying a Franchise, however, is not as simple as many people think it is. Since you're going to sink you hard earned money into a business venture, you better make sure that the business you're going into has a fair chance of surviving. Do your research as to what type of business would suit you. Look for a good location for your business. And be sure to commit yourself. After all, any business is for the long haul.

Friday, December 19, 2008

"Chinese" Christmas?

Everybody knows that Chinese New Year does not fall exactly on January 1 of the Gregorian calendar. It usually falls between January and February. Unlike the Gregorian calendar, the Chinese calendar follows the waxing and the waning of the moon rather than the revolution of the sun around the earth.

Of course it follows that the Chinese New Year falls on the first day of the year, as defined by the Chinese Lunar Calendar.

There is a misnomer, though. We sometimes hear of people talking about "Chinese" Christmas. It's usually defined as the day before Chinese New Year. However, since Christianity is not a dominant religion among Chinese, there is actually no reason for them to set aside a special day for Christ's birth. Chinese Catholics and Christians would celebrate Christmas on December 25, like the rest of the world.

I think the confusion lies in the fact that the term used by the older Chinese for Christmas and New Year's Eve (Ni Tao in the Fukien dialect) is the same. Also, Filipinos tend to think that New Year follows Christmas, and if there's a Chinese New Year, there MUST be a Chinese Christmas. And why not? They probably see their Chinese friends making a big issue out of the Chinese New Year's celebrations, with good food, ang paos, tikoy, wearing the color red -- a celebration much awaited by the Chinese Filipinos with the same degree as the Filipinos await their Christmas Day with the noche buena celebration. :)

So for the record, I'm Catholic and I'm also Chinese Filipino. We celebrate Christmas Day on December 25. Chinese New Year is another celebration entirely.

Saturday, December 6, 2008

Kai Siao

A lot of people I talk to still think that arranged marriages are still the norm for Chinese men and women. That is certainly not the case. I would think that there may still be some, but for most modern Chinese, marriage partners are mostly of one's choice rather than the parents' choice. This is very different from my grandmothers' time. My grandmother told me that the first time she saw my grandfather is during her wedding day already, since it was her family who decided to accept the match.

What confuses people nowadays is that many Chinese families still do Kai Siao. That's in the Fukien dialect. It literally means to introduce. And that is what really happens. A family with an unmarried son or daughter would try to ask around for a suitable mate for their child. Friends would usually act as matchmakers, bringing the two families together for dinner, hoping that the children would hit it off and become boyfriend/girlfriend and later on decide to get married. If no sparks occur, well, that's that. The families aren't going to force the issue. They will just try to see if there are other prospects which might catch their son or daughter's eye.

Although a lot of other people may scoff at this, this is actually not much different from being set up on a date by friends. There are a lot of couples who have had successful marriages after kai siao. (I'm not one of them, but I've seen it happen, so I know it works.) Concerned families usually screen the prospective son or daughter-in-law to check on the family's background, the work ethic, the attitude, the reputation in the community, and a lot more. The built in advantage is that the choice is already more or less preapproved and chances are the parents already know each other from somewhere (whether in business, or from friends and relatives).

This is really not the same as the arranged marriages of old. It's simply another way to get "the young people" to know more "prospects" and hope that a successful marriage may ensue.

Sunday, November 30, 2008

Random Facts

Got this from Leah:


Here are the rules:
1. Each blogger must post these rules.
2. Each blogger starts with ten random facts/habits about themselves.
3. Bloggers that are tagged need to write ten facts about themselves. You need to choose ten people to tag and list their names.
4. Don’t forget to leave them a comment telling them they've been tagged and also to read your blog.

10 Random facts/habits about me.
  1. When faced with a choice between going out or staying home on a free day, I'd choose staying home.
  2. I am so not into household chores. I would go crazy if I didn't have to work but have to stay at home doing household chores. (This makes me admire SAHMs all the more, coz it's hard work!) I am glad that I live in the Philippines where household help is easy to come by.
  3. I drive because I have to. But if somebody else is with me, I would rather just be a passenger.
  4. I am not much of a shopping person. Which makes me different from a lot of women.
  5. I love to read. But lately I do not have the time to do so anymore.
  6. I am a late bloomer -- had my first (and only) boyfriend at 29, got married at 34 and had my first kid at 35.
  7. I love my job. My lifelong ambition is to be a doctor and I am one. I just wish people know that we don't really make as much as they think we do.
  8. I speak fluent Mandarin, though with a Chinese-Filipino accent. People from Taiwan think I'm from the mainland and people from China mainland think I'm from Taiwan whenever I speak :D.
  9. I love the chicken feet in dimsum!
  10. I don't eat sardines. I don't know why -- they just turn me off.
Now I'm supposed to tag 10 people.....Hmmm, let's see -- Maver, Dowadee, Abie, Jan, Jenny, Pheng, Lissa, Arpi, Claire, Cherry :)

Saturday, November 29, 2008

Simulated Military Games

A friend of mine is very much into airsoft games. I once accompanied him to a store selling gear for this sport. I was surprised that there is actually a complete line of clothing, gear and boots, much like the real 511 Tactical gear used by military men, aside from the airsoft guns that there in the store. It seems that the airsoft enthusiasts really take their sport seriously, like actual military operations. My friend says that you can actually get hurt in these games if you were not careful, although, of course, there is no danger to life.

This actually looks like a good way for men (and women too) to let off their secret military aspirations and aggressiveness without actually becoming involved in real wars.

Wednesday, November 26, 2008

Not The Same Race? So What?!

Race - it's what we're born into, and we pretty much have nothing to do with being born that way. It doesn't make you better or worse than anybody else.

While the specter of racism is not really something that we expect to go away soon, physically hurting somebody else with the "reason" that he/she does not belong is something that is NOT acceptable at all. Let me share to you the incident that the daughter of an internet buddy experienced in her school bus, of all places!

I share the mother's pain. It is so scary for parents to realize that there are a lot of things that we cannot protect our children from. I salute the mother for taking the first step towards making people aware of the evil that arises out of racism.

I hope her daughter will get over this incident with no lingering trauma but with a life lesson that sometimes, life isn't fair but we do need to stand up for who we are and not let others put us down.

For those boys who think that it's "cool" to taunt, to jeer, and ultimately, to physically hurt somebody else just because she is not "one of you"...I hope you get what you deserve. I grieve for your parents. If I were your parents, I would be ashamed of kids like you.

Monday, November 24, 2008

My Christmas Wish List

I have to admit I got a little stumped. All my wishes nowadays are big ticket items which I hope my husband and I want to save up for, like a house :). I don't suppose you can list THAT on a Christmas gift list! (hey, maybe I have a fairy grandmother who will read this and grant me my wish!)

So here is my Christmas wish list...

  1. CASH - To be perfectly honest, there is never a time that we don't need a little bit of extra money -- to pay the bills, to pay Ethan's tuition, to pay for my CS delivery this coming June 2009, to pay for my clinic rental, for investment purposes, and to save up for our future dream house.
  2. A scanner - We still have tons of old pictures from the pre-digital camera days. Sadly, some of the old negatives were misplaced or lost. It would be nice if we could scan them as digital files before they deteriorate with time. Pictures are so memorable and so irreplaceable. I think it's a little expensive, though...
  3. Transition tubes or Belly Belt - I still have some maternity pants from my first pregnancy, but of course I would like to stretch my wardrobe to include the pants I was using before I got pregnant, mainly because they look better. It's good that many blouses that are trendy nowadays can be used as maternity blouses because of their cut, but pants are another matter entirely. It's too expensive (and I'm too frugal...) to buy a whole new set of clothes that will just last me a few months.
  4. Pocketbooks - I've stopped buying books for quite a while already. Because of budget issues and storage issues. But I still love them. Love Sidney Sheldon, Judith MacNaught, Susan Elizabeth Phillips, John Grisham, and a whole lot more!
There isn't really a lot. I may add to this if I find something I really, really like and MUST have. But let me add, it's really the thought that counts, so I'm grateful for any gift...either for me or for my family :)
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This is for my mommy in the Pinaybloggers Christmas Gift Exchange, but, hey, if you're not my mommy, don't let me stop you from giving me something. Hahahahaha!

Monday, November 17, 2008

Farewell, Msgr. Tchou

For older graduates of Saint Jude Catholic School, the memory of Fr. Charles Tchou is forever linked with the memories of school.

When we were in SJCS, Fr. Tchou was feared by most of the students. He was the school's chief disciplinarian and is known for giving out the dreaded conduct C* or in extreme cases, conduct D. Thankfully, I was mostly a rule follower and never considered cheating, or breaking school property, or being disrespectful to teachers, or bringing in smut, which is the case with the most publicized cases of conduct C's being given out to erring students. He was also known to give instant crew cuts, his version, to boys who sport hair longer than was prescribed. I would venture to say that a lot of students, budding teenagers and tweens alike, who are in the first throes of rebelling against set rules, really hated the way that they were "limited" by the rules.

While some never outgrew their distaste for what they feel was a trampling of their right to self expression, more of us grew up realizing that there was a lot of value in what the school taught us. The school, and especially Fr. Tchou, taught us that there were reasons for rules, and you were supposed to abide by these rules. The rules exempt no one. Everyone was covered by rules and everyone should follow them. If you didn't, there would be consequences that you should be man (or woman) enough to accept.

If I think about it, the rules in school aren't really much different from the rules at home. It all boils down to love and respect for the other members of the family (or of the school) and respect for oneself.

If one stops to think about it, that should apply to everybody as well. I am shocked that the people in the highest places, the people who should know about the laws of the land, are ignorant, or blissfully ignore the law in order to benefit themselves and their families. When they get caught, they just spend their time looking for palusots. Which should not have been the case.

Fr. Tchou was not always the stern disciplinarian. He can actually joke with us. I remember one time he saw me and my brothers waiting for our ride home. I was quite a thin girl and my younger brothers were much chubbier. He chuckled and said that my brothers must have always snatched away my share of the food, leaving nothing to me. I remember chuckling a bit at that.

I graduated High School in 1987. I don't think I ever saw Fr. Tchou again after that. He was given another assignment about 3 years after I graduated from High School and was never reassigned again to SJCS. He was promoted to Monsignor a few years back. Our batch visited him in November 2004. Unfortunately, I was not able to go because I was on my honeymoon then.

About a week ago, he got hospitalized at Cardinal Santos. Before I could decide whether or not to go visit him, he suddenly passed away. He was 84. I can no longer go to the wake because I am pregnant and Chinese custom do not allow pregnant women from attending wakes.

I was informed that one of his last wishes was that his wake be held at SJCS, where he had contributed the best years of his life. I felt it was only fitting to do so. I was told that a lot of alumni went to pay their final respects. Ironically, most of the school's students and present faculty no longer know him, as he has been away from SJCS for 19 years. Although he has been away for so long, it was obvious that there was where his heart belongs.

For the man who was very instrumental in making most of us know the true meaning of "discipline", "rules" and who has the gumption to actually carry out the needed punishments, farewell. I will always remember you as an important figure of my growing up years.
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N.B. Conduct C: There is a grading system for conduct in SJCS. It supposedly gauges your behavior during the quarter and ranges from A to D. Conduct A is very rare -- I've never known anybody who's gotten more than A-. Conduct D is also quite rare. Conduct C puts you under probation, and keeps you from getting the choice positions in school like president, editor-in-chief or whatnot. 2 Conduct C's in the same year gets you expelled. 1 Conduct D is enough to expel you. At least these are what I remembered.

Friday, November 14, 2008

Prom Thoughts

I remember my high school JS prom, although for the wrong reasons. At that time, it was not the elaborate affair that it is today. It was held at the mess hall of my school. There was no airconditioning. My "date" was someone assigned to me by the teachers and the flowers were also provided by the school. The first time I attended, during my junior year, my "date" stood me up. I don't know if he was there, but I sure didn't see him. The second time was a little bit better, since my "date" and I got to talk. I don't know if it mattered, but the first "date" I had was a handsome boy. I wonder if he thought he was too good for a plain, quiet girl like me. The second "date" I had was more down-to-earth, and although we didn't have any of those romantic "dates", it was pretty nice having someone to talk to, actually give you the flowers and dance with you, so, all in all, it was a pleasant evening.

Since my parents were old school and didn't have proms during their time, they didn't really understand what it was all about. The prom is an American concept adopted by Philippine schools, so the oldies don't really know much about it. The requirement of the school regarding attire didn't really help at all. It stated semi-formal, and you know how broad that term is. It's nowhere like the glamorous affairs shown in the American teen movies that were popular at that time. My prom dresses were actually yellow cotton blouse and skirt sets, both times, although with a different design. The balloon skirt was quite the in thing at that time, so I guess I fitted in with the times. My mom and I just pulled out something from my existing wardrobe. The boys were in long sleeved polo shirts some with ties. Some were even in shirt sleeves. The other girls' "prom dresses" didn't really deviate much from mine, but some designs were more glamorous. Only the Miss Alumni was wearing a gown. Her escort is wearing a suit. But since the place was warm, I do not think that they were comfortable at all. I did my makeup myself, and I do not think that I looked great at all. My classmates had salon sessions, but I thought they looked over made up for 15 or 16 year old girls.

If I had a daughter and she will be attending her prom, I would know better and outfit her with something more glamorous and something that would stand out in her memory for a long time. Nowadays, the prom has become like a sort of coming out party for a lot of teens, as not everyone can afford a format debut. Barring a wedding, it's also one of the few times that they get to really dress up. I'd choose one of the not-so-revealing outfits in prom dresses Clarisse, maybe the white strapless gown that still looks quite innocent. Well, I do not have a daughter yet, so I do not know if that will come to fruition, but then, it's nice to dream, is it not?

In the meantime, I'm having fun looking at the prom dresses 2009. I'm a bit on the conservative side though, so I don't think I'd be picking any of the low cut, cleavage bearing dresses, or any of the almost bareback dresses or thigh bearing dresses featured in the collection of prom dresses Jovani for 2009. I mean, they're still teenagers, and here in the Philippines, being a junior or senior means that you're only 15 or 16. I just think they are more appropriate for girls who are a bit older and more mature. I'd imagine that the officials in my school will be having a fit if they saw any of us wearing one of those. But then, it's also a conservative Catholic school, so I may just be a bit conservative.

Friday, October 24, 2008

PPBC 9: Birthdays!

Birthdays are always special, and Pinoys really take the time and the effort to make each birthday special, especially for our kids. It may be a simple home-style birthday celebration, a small classroom celebration on a small budget or a yearly big bash with all the works, and with great looking invites made by mommy herself!

What is a birthday celebration without food? The order of the day may be good food aplenty or just a simple birthday dish that marks the day.

Birthdays may also have another significant meaning to somebody, other than the obvious. Birthdays also prompt us parents to muse on our little child growing a year older and becoming a teenager.

Birthdays may be a sentimental celebration prompting us to remember also how we used to celebrate ours, when we used to be young ourselves. Of course, birthdays are not only for our kids, but for everyone in the family, so even if we only have one birthday a year, we'd have a lot of birthday celebrations each year!

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This is the (overdue) roundup to Pinoy Parenting Blog Carnival 9th Edition: Birthdays! I would like to thank the participants (KCee, Joann, Bingskee, Angel, Mon, Thea, Maver, Jenny, Vina, Jewel, Kathycot, Tricia and of couse, myself :) ) who took the time to submit their articles about birthdays.

This is such a big topic to write about, and I just opted to make the roundup simple. Just click on the yellow links in order to read each of the great articles.

I look forward to seeing you in the next edition of the PPBC!

Unannounced and Unexpected Blog Leave...

Even I didn't expect it to be so long!

I would like to apologize to everybody. The last few weeks have been very hectic that I have only managed to do a few short posts here and there. I admit that The Working Mom got most of my attention, because, truthfully, that is my "earning" blog.

I still have an obligation to a lot of people to complete the Pinoy Parenting Blog Carnival 9th edition. As anyone who've ever hosted a blog carnival knows, you need more time and more focus in order to complete a good roundup, unlike the usual short posts where you can just put down what you feel. I fear that I've had neither for the past few weeks. Things are happening in my family -- mostly good -- but they've kind of limited the time I have for my online ventures.

I am starting the roundup already and I hope I will get it finished soon!

Thank you all for your patience.

Sunday, September 28, 2008

Death and Taxes

A lot of Chinese people (and Pinoy, too, I believe) do not believe in insurance. We all think that it is just a waste of money and that we're actually throwing hard earned money away. I used to be one of those people, since my parents were not believers in these.

However, when my father passed away at the relatively young age of fifty eight after struggling with cancer, I finally realized our mortality. People don't live forever. We're bound to die someday. That's an inescapable fact. The only thing unsure about our death is when we will die and how we will die. After experiencing several deaths in the family, I know how difficult it is for the family and friends that you leave behind. Not only do they have to deal with the emotional upheaval of losing a loved one, they also have to deal with financial problems. Think about this: It's expensive to die. Ironic, isn't it? Wake and interment are expensive, but more than that, the family has to think on what to do in order to earn -- if the one who died is the family breadwinner. If the deceased has a lot of properties, his heirs also have to shell out a huge amount in inheritance taxes. Good if the inheritance is in monetary form. The problem is if the inheritance is in the form of lands or real estate which have a high market value but the money simply does not have enough cash to pay off the inheritance tax.

I believe that we all should get an insurance quote so that we know what's the best plan for our families when we have to leave them behind in the world of the living. That's actually a proof that we love our family -- we've actually taken some steps in ensuring that they won't run into too much financial difficulty when we're gone.

Since I'm not rich and I still have a small boy, I got insurance that would help whoever takes care of him when I'm gone, hopefully giving him a good life and a good education.

Thursday, September 25, 2008

PPBC 9 Call For Articles: Birthdays!

Birthdays are special days, especially if you're a parent. It's the day when you finally see your kid for the first time, and parents usually celebrate it in a far grander fashion than their own birthdays!

What can you say about birthdays? Did you celebrate your kid's birthdays with a big bash? Or a trip? Or just a simple celebration at home?

Was there anything significant that happened during your kids' birthday?

Were you happy about how your kid's birthday celebration went?

Any special memories?

Any other thoughts?

Let's unleash our creativity. This edition's PPBC focuses on birthdays. You can talk about anything relating to birthdays, especially but not limited to your kid's birthdays. It could be your own, your spouse', your parents, whatever! You can make a poem, a story, a video...whatever hits your fancy. Be fun, be creative, be serious...the choice is up to you!

Submit your entries by commenting on this thread with the permalink of your entry.

Deadline is on October 5, 2008. I'll try to come out with the roundup by October 6, 2008.

More guidelines on the PPBC here.

Wednesday, September 24, 2008

Video on Heart Failure

I'm sure many of us know of at least one person who have lost their lives due to heart failure. What is it? How can we avoid it? What are the symptoms? How is it detected? What are the treatment options? This very informative video by the Saint Jude Medical answers all the above questions and more.

Tuesday, September 23, 2008

Coffee Break ver 1.37

Another coffee break question from Jan:




I believe there are more "made" leaders than "born" leaders. Leaders are people who are thrust in the position of responsibility and power, and rise to the occasion with their knowledge, skills, PR and everything that they have at their disposal. That being said, most of those were cultivated through the years.

I believe even world leaders are "made" -- molded by their families and schools, given power by their political parties and voted by the people. That is, unless you're talking about kings, emperors or other leaders who inherited their titles -- we don't really have a lot of those now.

Friday, September 19, 2008

To Tide Things Over

With the recent barrage of economic problems, people are having difficulties keeping up with payments despite earning what was formerly deemed to be an adequate income. Some were even forced to ask relatives and friends for Personal Loans when there are big expenses, much to their embarrassment. For people who can't or won't do so, there are Pay Day Loans available which you can avail of if it is determined that you pass their qualifications. This would at least help in tiding things over.

I do wish this situation would be over soon and we would soon stop having to tighten our belts. Would the next American president hold the key to economic recovery for all of us? We'll have to wait and see.

coffee break ver. 1.36

Another interesting question from Jan:



Like Jan, I've always been a fan of MacGyver. I love the way he's always managed to extricate himself from difficult situations using his knowledge of chemistry and physics and improvising with whatever he finds. He adds new meaning to the word "resourceful"! Oh, of course, he's not the typical brawny hero. He's a geek's dream. :)

I don't know if anybody still remembers "Moonlighting"? This show introduced Bruce Willis to the world! This also resurrected the career of Cybill Shepherd. It's a mix of comedy, action and romance -- there's always a feeling of "are they, or aren't they?" between the two leads. When Maddie and David finally admitted their attraction to each other and slept together, the ratings started to decline. Oh well, I wasn't able to watch most of the episodes because of PBA. It was on the other channel and my brothers would always insist on watching it and since the 2 of them beat the one of me, they always win. :). Would probably buy the DVD if they have one.

"Remington Steele" -- I'm not sure if it's Pierce Brosnan's first big break, but it IS the first time I've seen him. It's about a female detective who finds out that clients would hesitate hiring a female, so she invents a fictitious male boss, Remington Steele. The character of Pierce Brosnan, whose real name was never revealed, assumed the identity. More on it here.

These are the American shows that were shown on Philippine TV. I actually miss the Hong Kong series on Betamax that my mom used to rent, but I don't know the English translation of the titles and I'm not sure anybody can relate :P

Wednesday, September 17, 2008

Online Auto Loans

For a family, a car does not seem to be enough. I think a van is a better choice. My husband and I have been eyeing a Toyota Innova for quite a while, however, we do not have the resources to pay for it in cash, if we want a brand new one. Fortunately, there are a lot of other solutions that we can look into, i.e. Car Loans. Did you know that you can actually apply for one online? Even if you have bad credit? You can apply online and have an approval in as little as two minutes. We will definitely have to include that in our list of options.

Monday, September 15, 2008

Values


Leah, the host of PPBC 8th edition, posted this interesting challenge: What values or lessons in life do you want to instill in your children, and why? Please name only 3.

I think that no matter what your culture is, in my case, whether Chinese or Filipino, there are some values which are universal. My parents instilled in me the following values that I wish to pass on to my children:

1. Respect
- Respect for a Higher Being
Catholics and Christians believe in God, Muslims have Allah as the center of their faith, Buddhists uphold the teachings of Buddha. I believe it's important that we realize that there's a Force greater than us -- and that we must respect that.

- Respect for other people
Simple acts of courtesy like waiting for your turn, letting people pass, paying the proper amount in a transaction, these all show that you believe that the other people are as important as you are, and that they deserve to be treated the same way that you want to be treated.

- Respect for nature
Throwing garbage in their proper receptacles. No cutting of trees and plants. Cleaning up waterways. These all show respect for nature. Because nature deserves no less. Because if we do not respect nature, our lives would eventually be miserable.

- Respect for life
Every living thing deserves its place under the sun. Unless it's important (food, medicinal use, for example), there is no reason to kill other creatures (or humans, for that matter).

- Respect for laws, rules and people in authority
Even if sometimes (ok, a lot of times!), those in authority do not seem to worthy of respect, we do need to follow the laws and abide by the set rules because these are there in order to ensure a smooth running of the whole community.

2. Humility
Not being arrogant or prideful, because we recognize that though we may be better than other people in some aspects of life, others may be better than us in others. We are not in a contest as to who is better in what. We are all different, and we are supposed to all complement each other as to our strengths and failings.

3. Honesty
While people would sometimes say lies for not-really-evil reasons like saving face, sparing others from hurt feelings, etc, I still believe in the adage that "Honesty is still the best policy".

Yes, these are the values that my husband and I would want for our little boy, whatever he becomes, and wherever he may be. These are values passed on by both our parents, although we don't really have the same cultures. These are values which should be instilled in everybody, but which are sadly lacking in today's society.

Friday, September 12, 2008

August 8, 2008

Unlike what most Filipinos think, the Chinese are not really too enthralled about 8-8-8. You see, even if the numbers are the coveted 8, the date is based on the Gregorian calendar, which is not what Chinese people follow for selecting dates. What's more, 8-8-8 happens to fall on the Chinese Ghost Month.

There are a supposedly a lot of weddings on this date, but we didn't receive any wedding invitation for a Chinese couple getting hitched on the supposed lucky date. Most of the weddings during this day was for Filipinos.

Nevertheless, the Olympics started on this day in Beijing, China, at 8PM. So the Chinese government may have thought that this day was lucky still.

Oh, and Michael Phelps did get 8 gold medals during this year's Olympics. The number 8 was HIS lucky number, I guess. :)

Monday, September 1, 2008

Raising a Decent Person

I have often heard from various anecdotes how my grandparents used to discipline their kids. From what I hear, my paternal grandfather was the strict disciplinarian who wouldn't hesitate to spank his kids for perceived wrongdoing and my grandmother was the one they run to for comfort. I've heard that my maternal grandmother was not very strict. My maternal grandfather was like an OFW in those days, he was in Iloilo working on his business while his family was in Hong Kong, so I really do not think he was around that much to do the disciplining. This was around the 1940's - 1960's.

My parents were quite strict, but my dad has always said that he was trying to be a little more understanding. They do spank us, my dad with a belt and my mom with a piece of rattan stick, but we usually know why we were spanked. They were not unreasonable and looking back, we already knew beforehand that punishment was forthcoming but we still chose to test their limits. Spanking was something that happens when you do not listen to your parents or to your teachers. Yes, spanking was the form of punishment done during those days, both in the school and out of it, but it was not the only one. We have experienced being locked in our rooms, standing in the corner, etc. This was around the Martial Law era, the 1970s and 1980s.

Now that I'm a mother myself, one of the things I know I would have to instill is discipline. We now live in a world that is much more permissive for kids. I do not really like corporal punishment, because I've been the recipient of such. Although I understand my parents and love them with all my heart (and I also know that they must have been heartbroken to have to dole out punishment), I really do not want my kids to grow up spoiled. I've seen a lot of kids who are really brats, and I've always wondered how they parents allow them to turn that way! None of my parents, uncles or aunts are spoiled brats. None of my siblings are spoiled brats. I think there are more spoiled brats this generation and I really wonder why.

While thinking about this topic, I came across the "Spoiled Brat Screening Quiz". You might want to try it out by clicking on the link.

I think that discipline should start from an early age. I don't think we really consciously think about what age...we just try to enforce our rules as early as possible. What are we doing or trying to do (we're not always successful) with our three year old?

  • My husband and I am trying to always be in sync. If daddy says "no", mommy should stand by his decision and vice versa.
  • "No" means "no", "no way", "there's absolutely no compromise". It does not mean "maybe", "later", or "when I'm not looking".
  • Discipline by example. By BEING a decent, law-abiding citizen. I mean, how can you teach your kid not to throw garbage everywhere when he sees you doing it?
  • He will have everything he needs (as we perceive it) but he won't get everything he wants. Such is life.
  • When he does something especially good, he gets praises, smiles, a hug and a kiss. Toys as rewards? Maybe, but not always.
  • We try to explain why he can't do some things, why he can't have some things. Even at his young age, he can already understand some concepts.
  • Corporal punishment is a last resort. I do not want him to have bad relationships with us that he would try to keep secrets from us. I'd rather that we have a good enough relationship that we'll be the first one he goes to when he has problems. BUT a smack for particularly bad behavior (but with prior warnings already, on the palm or on the buttocks, not too hard) MAY sometimes be needed for particularly bad behavior. But it's a last resort. And a talk afterwards on why he got spanked.
I guess every parent wants his/her child to grow up to be a decent person. I am certainly one in hoping that my child is one. I have to make sure that he understands that this world doesn't revolve around what he wants, but what is right.
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This is my entry to the 7th Edition of the Pinoy Parenting Blog Carnival, which I'm hosting in my other blog, The Working Mom.

Sunday, August 31, 2008

2008 Movies

My husband and I love movies. Well, my husband more than I because I actually prefer books. But books are more of a solitary activity unlike movies which can be enjoyed together. Most of our dates when we haven't gotten married were movie dates. Now that we have a kid, we enjoy mostly "DVD dates" which consists of popping a DVD into the player, getting out the drinks and chips and watching in our room while the kiddo sleeps. I actually think this survey suits my husband more than it suits me. :)

Monday, August 25, 2008

Un-Flawless :(

I used to have bad skin back when I was in medical school. It was kinda weird because my skin was relatively clear when I was a teenager when my classmates were starting to sprout pimples. When I was already in my twenties and in medical school, that was when I started having endless breakouts. Maybe it was the stress. I've already tried a lot of acne medications, probably all those that were available in the market at around that time. It took a while, but finally I no longer have any breakouts. With all the numerous products claiming to promote clearer skin, you have to find the RIGHT SOLUTION FOR YOU. We didn't have the benefit of internet research back then, you do now.

Brillante Weblog

Got this award from Mec. Thanks, sis!


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No Batteries Needed

Remember the Typhoon Milenyo? I did. It affected the electricity lines so much that power outage lasted for about three days in our house. All my stored breastmilk thawed. I've heard that it was even longer than 3 days in other places around Metro Manila. Good thing we were ready and had our rechargeable lamps. However, 3 days of outage almost depleted our lamp's power. I realized that we should have a shake flashlight as a backup. This does not need electricity or battery and is very environmentally friendly since you only need to shake it for it to gain power, thus no used batteries to throw and add to our ever growing environmentally destructive waste.

Spread The Blog Love

Thanks, Leah for this tag. :)

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Franchise Business Information Online

Tsinoys are best known for their business sense. Some of the biggest businesspeople in Manila and the rest of the Philippines are Tsinoys who made it big after the last world war by making a business out of supplying the basic needs. However, the faster way to establish your own business is to get a franchise, much like George Yang did with the local McDonald's. If you're looking to start a business, you have the capital for it but do not want to start from scratch, you can look for franchise information online to help you on your way to your new business.

Saturday, August 23, 2008

Thoughts on Dating

Players: Ozzy’s Mom Me,Myself + 2 | Kidd Designs | Fun.Fierce.Fabulous | Life is What we Make it | Joys in Life | Photo Blog | Permanence in Change l A Matter of Perspective | The Working Mom | Tsinay

1. When was your first kiss and where?
Secret! :)

2. When was your first real relationship and how long did it last?
I was a late bloomer. I had my first boyfriend at 29 years old. It lasted for 5 years. Then, we got married. :)

3. What age were you allowed to date?
Dad and Mom wanted me to finish my medical studies first. So, I guess, 26?

4. What’s the craziest thing you did (for love) when you were a teenager?
I really can't remember :). I was a pretty level headed (boring!) teen!

5. How long was your longest relationship and what’s the secret?
I only had 1 relationship and that's with my husband. So far we're "us" for 9 years already. More than 5 years since we became steadies and a bit less than 4 years since we got married.

The secret? Understanding, giving each other space, constant communication and of course, love.

6. How long did you date before you decided to settle down?
5 years. But we actually talked about marriage around 2 years into the relationship. Other external factors prevented us from taking the plunge until we were on for 5 years.

7. How did you know he was the ONE?
It's not that easy to explain. It was never one big, grand gesture. It was all in the details, the small things he did that made me feel special and taken cared of. I knew he would always do those little things. :)

8. Now, at what age will you allow your kid(s) to date?
I really do not know. But I'll make sure I'll arm my kids with the necessary knowledge. I don't think "not allowing" them to date means they won't -- they'll just keep it a secret. So I guess it's better not to "not allow" them, but let them know about what to watch out for. Hopefully they'll listen.

9. When it comes to your kids dating, will you be a cool parent or a strict parent?
I think my husband will be the stricter one between the two of us, especially if we have a daughter. Like I said, I'll try to let them know all there is to know about dating and hope those lessons take root in their hearts.

10. What piece of advice can you give to your child when they start dating?
Don't be forced into anything you do not want to.

Sunday, August 3, 2008

Online Diva

Got this from Joanne. Thanks, sis! :) Didn't know that I am a diva!

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Online Divas:
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All Merging in the Path of My Life
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My Big Picture
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Walk on Red with Me
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Supah MaMa Wannabe
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The Stories of a Now SAHM
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10. Joey M.D.
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12. The Working Mom
13. Tsinay

Reasons why I am an Online Diva:
1. Litzie - It helps me pass time when I’m at work and don’t have any patient to attend to.
2. Kathycot - Because it serves as my past time plus it gives me moolah for my kapricho's
3. Joanne - It keeps me awake at work and of course, extra ka-ching! ;)
4. Joey - It fulfills my secret wish to be a writer, without too much of the pressure, and it's going to help in the household expenses.

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I'm tagging Jeng, Jenny, Maver, Mari, Leah.

Saturday, August 2, 2008

Ghost Month

For us of Chinese ancestry, yesterday coincided with the first day of the seventh month in the lunar month. This signals the start of the lunar month. Tradition states that weddings, house movings and other events not be done at this time if possible. More on the Chinese traditions during this month are tackled in this Wikipedia article.

Friday, August 1, 2008

It's About You

Whether or not you are already a member of Dneero, here is an interesting set of questions for you to answer. You have to join to be able to get the survey widget to display on your blog (and to get paid too), though, so do join us. Enjoy!

Wednesday, July 30, 2008

Who Pays?

A few months back, I was "helped" by a security guard who, while backing my husband's car to the street, missed seeing the oncoming AUV and continued backing. Needless to say, the result was a dented rear end for my husband's car, a dented front end for the other vehicle and an argument about who's responsible. In the end, it turned out that the building owners are responsible since the guard is under their employ so they were the ones who settled with the other party. Not everyone can be so fortunate as to have an easy and fast settlement without looking for a lawsuit finance for a claim. I'd say all's well that ends well, except for our poor car, that is. My good hearted husband didn't anymore ask for anything from the building administration except that the other party gets paid.

Tuesday, July 29, 2008

What Kind of Parent Am I?

While mulling over what type of parent I am, I came across this quiz and decided to take it. I am quite pleased with the results because that's the type of parent I really want to be.




You Will Be a Cool Parent



You seem to naturally know a lot about parenting, and you know what kids need.

You can tell when it's time to let kids off the hook, and when it's time to lay down the law.

While your parenting is modern and hip, it's not over the top.

You know that there's nothing cool about a parent who acts like a teenager... or a drill sergeant!



But I really wonder...am I a cool parent? Will I be able to know the fine balance between being too harsh or too lax in disciplining my kids? Will I be "friends" with my kids so that they will learn NOT to keep secrets from me? Will my kids hopefully learn to know right and from wrong, and develop a conscience that would make them do the right things and avoid the wrong ones?

My husband have just started along the path of parenthood with one small boy of 2 years and 10 months of age. This early, we try to be as loving as possible, to give in to his reasonable whims but to be firm in refusing those that are unreasonable. We are fortunate because our little son seems to respond to us with the same amount of love that we're showing him. We hope that more than the ABCs and 123s that he is learning, the basic lessons of what is right and wrong will stick with him throughout his lifetime and he will be a decent man, whether or not he later attains riches.

Just late last week, I attended a Parenting Talk at Teacher Mac's Excellerated Learning Center. The take away message was that "I may never be a PERFECT PARENT but I can be a GREAT ONE".



I do hope I will turn out to be one.
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This is my entry to the 6th Edition of the PPBC, hosted by Guardian Angel.
I am glad to have started this carnival in my other blog, and I hope if you're a Pinoy parent, you will join us in our future editions. Guidelines and archives here.

Monday, July 28, 2008

7 Random Things About Me

Tagged by Kelly and Melisse.

The rules:

A. List these rules on your blog.
B. Share 7 facts about yourself on your blog.
C. Tag 7 people at the end of your post by leaving their names as well as links to their blogs.

1. I learned Chinese before I learned English or Filipino.
2. I have NOT been to Palawan. :(
3. I used to be a wallflower in high school. I think I still am. :)
4. I could hang out in the bookstore for ages.
5. I only have 2 pairs of shoes!
6. I am not a shopaholic. Hmm, must be a defective female gene. :P
7. I haven’t watched a movie for several months now.

I sound so square! Oh well, that's who I am :). Now tagging Maver, Jhona, Sheng, Pheng.

Sunday, July 27, 2008

Disclosure and Legalese

The contents on this blog are original works by the author. Quotes and pictures from other sources will be properly credited.

I may accept a fee for some of my works, but rest assured that these would not affect my personal opinions.

Saturday, July 26, 2008

Power of Prayer

This was passed on to me by MaverPrayer for the MV Princess of the stars fatalities and survivors:

Dear God,

We pray that you comfort each bereaved family everyday as they grieved for their loss, we pray that you will supply all their needs, we pray for the survivors that they may have a good life after the tragedy, that you will bless them and let them know in the deepest part of their heart that in spite of what have happened, you LOVE and CARE for them. This we pray in the mighty name of Jesus. Amen.

I encourage everyone to keep the prayer going. LET’S P.U.S.H. (PRAY UNTIL SOMETHING HAPPENS).

We Prayed:


1. Through The Rain 2. God’s gift 3. The Adventures of Dong and Jing 4. Me, Myself and I 5. malditang bunso’s journal 6. Underneath It All 7. 100% Kelly 8. Gossip Gehl 9. The Working Mom 10. Joey M.D. 11. Practical Tips and More 12. Online Raket 13. Tsinay 14. You're Next

I'm tagging Leah, Mari, Joanne, Janet for this.

Monday, July 21, 2008

The Domino Tag

Tagged by Janesse.


Rule: Copy the entire list and add your name at the bottom. And tag at least 5 friends. (But you can tag as many as you like).

Note: Please link the blog where you posted the tag We appreciate you linking all your blogs but make sure you post the tag in the blogs too.

Mommy Talks Aggie Shoots. Aggie Scraps All Kinds of Me Stuff The Salad Caper Winding Creek Circle Anorexic Queen Apple of Yan Ple YanPle Howell and Abie My Planet Purple WomenXplore Princess Bela My Happy Place I am Dzoi Cliktrik 100% Kelly My Colorful World Ramdom Thoughts Scribbles of My Life In This Game of Life The Shopaholic in Me Mommyhood and Me My Charmed Life My Joys Sassy Finds Celebrating Life Life is Peachy Belly, Baby and Beyond {BloggerHappy} Fun.Fierce.Fab Ozzy’s Mom Me,Myself+2 Shopaholic Ties the Knot
The Wifey Diaries - jannesse The Working Mom Joey M.D. Practical Tips and More Tsinay



I am passing this to

Thursday, July 17, 2008

Magic Lamp of Luck

Got this tag from Jenny :). Thanks so much sis!



"The mighty Genie King and the beautiful Genie Princess from the magical Land of Faraway are back! Upon escaping the clutches of their Evil Master after being held captive for 1000 years, the magical genies have been busy flying on their Magical Flying Carpet, granting wishes and spreading love throughout the blogosphere.


"And now, the genies are back with a special gift for everyone! Behold the sacred, Magic Lamp of Luck! With this magic lamp, your blog will enjoy much good luck and fortune, warding off all things evil lurking around in the blogosphere. We would like to share this magic lamp with you so please pass on the Magic Lamp of Luck to those in need of some good luck. Remember, do not be greedy or unkind, evil or vengeful and good luck & fortune will always be with you! Join us on another exciting magical adventure as we spread goodwill and good luck to one and all!"


I've been visited by the Genies for a stroke of luck, which I really need it! Thanks a bunch, Genies! :)

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I'm passing this tag to Maver Monet, Emz, Leah, Haze, Sheng.

Saturday, July 12, 2008

Tsinoy Wedding Customs -- Kwa Di Tsi

I'm inspired to do a piece on Chinese wedding traditions because my brother is getting married. Although he didn't really go through all the traditions, he was not spared from some requirements.

I do realize, though, that enumerating all of these would make a very, very long post, so I decided to focus on one tradition and just post on other traditions later.

Kwa dit tsi, literally means looking for a date. For the Chinese (including Tsinoys), this process is more complicated than usual.

The couple usually consults and expert on Chinese astrology. The expert then asks for their birthdates and time of birth and try to ascertain when the best time is for both of them. It is believed that certain days and times are auspicious for certain signs and bad for others, so a careful search is done. Sometimes the birth information from family members is also taken into consideration.

Although we didn't really have to undergo this because my husband wasn't Tsinoy, we still did because we figured that we don't really lose anything by looking for a "good date".

Friday, July 11, 2008

Think Again

What do you think of this song?

Sunday, July 6, 2008

Creative Parenting Seminar

My son's school, Teacher Mac's Excellerated Learning Center, is organizing a parenting seminar. Details as follows:

Topics:
I. Tantrums...How to Keep Your Cool
A. Establishing Routines
- Eating
- Sleeping
- TV Watching
B. Separation Anxiety

II. How To Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk
A. Helping Children Deal With Their Feelings
B. Alternatives to Punishment

The seminar fee, inclusive of handouts and snacks, are as follows:
- Php300.00 for one parent who will attend, and
- Php500.00 if both parents will attend
- Php200.00 for the yaya

This will be held on July 25, 2008 (Friday), 5:30 to 8:30pm, at the President's Hall, North Greenhills Clubhouse.

Please call up Ms. Jane on or before July 16, 2008 (Wednesday) at 723-4070 or 0928-5019969 to signify your intent to attend.

Thursday, July 3, 2008

Married Life

This week's coffee break by Jan is about married life. Coincidentally, Aggie also posted questions about married life! Here's my take on the topic.

What do you love most about being married? (Coffee Break ver 1.25)

Being in love, and working at staying in love. Marriage is always a work in progress. My husband and I went through, and will go through a lot of trials and tribulations, but at the end of it all, through all good things and bad, we continue to remember why we vowed to stay with each other. And that's because we love each other. Sure, we may have bad days and bad moods. Sure, we have some small quarrels once in a while. But as long as we keep our lines of communication open and try to understand each other, and remember all the reasons why we chose each other...we'll remember why we chose to live with each other rather than live our own life individually.

What are the things you want them to know about life after the wedding? (Aggie Wants To Know #1)

My brother's getting married very, very soon. And while these things may sound negative, this is what I want them to know about getting married:

  1. When you get married, you don't decide things just for yourself. You have to ALWAYS consider your spouse in your decisions. Later, when you have kids, the more you have to take them into consideration.
  2. Money matters may be a source of conflicts within the marriage. A lot of breakups occur because of conflicts over money -- how it should be spent, how much to save, what to spend it on. Decide early on how you are going to manage your money matters. Who's contributing to what, how much you can spend for yourself without having to inform the other, joint and separate bank accounts, insurance and all those other nitty gritty stuff.
  3. Although it's romantic to think that marriage is about the two of you, the reality is that marriage also involves other people. Remember that your in-laws are your spouse's family. You have to treat them with respect.
  4. Children are a joy to have. I have one and I want another one. But having children is definitely not a rash decision to make. Are you ready to raise children? Do you both have the emotional maturity to decide things for a totally dependent being? Children are also expensive. The cost of giving birth, medical care, diapers, milk, education, etc etc will get a big chunk out of your income. Are YOU ready for that?
  5. As I've said in the paragraph above, the you need at working to stay in love. I'm sure there are things about your partner that irritate you, as early as now. Believe me, more will come out when you are already married. When you're with a person 24/7, sharing the same house, the same room and the same bed, you see all the tiny little quirks that add up to your irritation. Choosing to stay in love also means having to ignore these little (and big) quirks that irritate you so much and remembering all the things that made you fall in love with each other in the first place.
I realize I sound a little negative, but those are the realities of married life. But I'll say that I'm happier now that I'm married, with a child, than I was when I was single. If I go through life again, I'd make the same choices.

Wednesday, July 2, 2008

Our Children Do Love Us -- PPBC4 Roundup

Sometimes parenting seems to be a dauntless and thankless task. Some people even go so far as to say that having children is simply not worth it. However, to the parents of PPBC, they just know their kids love them.

Sometimes it's as plain simple and straightforward as "I love you, mommy" from Janet's son, when he was but 2 years old.

Who would not be touched with this note from Mommy Jo Ann's five year old daughter?

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Mommy, gusto lang talaga kita ma-embrace at makatabi!

(Mommy, I just want to embrace you and be at your side!)


Daddy Angel's children would never fail to say I love you for whatever reason. He also enumerates the 10 exciting ways in which his children show their love.

Mommy Haze's 2 sons also say I love you in their own unique ways. Aside from verbally saying I love you, the boys also show their love in various non-verbal ways which leaves little to guessing.

Maver Monet has a purple dinosaur to thank, as her little son has mastered the words to "I love you, you love me, we're a happy family..." to show his love for them.

Those of us whose kids do not speak much yet, also know our kids love us.

Mommy Pheng knows that her son loves her despite the wrestling moves and the bites, through choosing her over everybody else, laughing at her tricks and kissing her at will.

I (Mommy Joey) haven't heard I Love You from my son yet, but he has said Happy Mommy Day last Mother's Day and sang Happy Birthday on my birthday!

Mommy Jing's little son does not sleep until he sees mommy and daddy and smiles a lot for his parents.

Mommy Jenny's little girl says Mommy so cutely that Mommy Jenny just has to smile.

Although she is not a Pinoy (Filipino) parent, Hortensa sent in an entry which I just had to include. She details the different sorts of love shown by children and ends by saying that as parents, we should show Agape (unconditional love).

These are just a sampling. I urge you to read the complete posts. Click on the pictures and the colored text to see the complete entries. This is, by far, the most difficult roundup I've ever done because it's so hard to what to put down. I want to write everything down, to be honest with you! Every story, every entry is touching and warm, and I loved reading each of them over and over again.

Next edition of PPBC (5th edition) will be hosted by Daddy Angel. Stay tuned.

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