Wednesday, May 13, 2009

Marriage of Different Cultures

Times may me more modern now, and interracial marriages are becoming more and more common, but traditional Chinese families would still prefer their children to marry fellow Chinese people. I didn't really understand that but I realized now why parents feel that it's "safer" to stay within the bounds of the same culture. No matter how integrated your family is with your adopted community, there will always be taste in food, in beliefs, in practices, in how one relates to the family, etc. Marrying somebody outside the same culture would raise alarms in a parent's mind because they know how difficult it is for one to adapt to another person, what more to another family and even more if that person has a different cultural background.

Of course, true love does conquer all. I've married somebody not Chinese and we have strove to adjust and complement each other. It's not easy though, in addition to having to adjust to a person who's raised by a wholly different family, we're adjusting to a partner who came from a whole different culture. But it can be done, as long as we're both committed to our marriage.