Friday, June 5, 2009

Money Is Unromantic! But...

Money is unromantic. We don't really want to talk about it. It causes conflicts in most relationships, most especially a marriage.

Marriage is a partnership. It's even more obvious in marriages as "my money" and "your money" becomes "our money". Everything becomes conjugal. You no longer have sole control over the money that you earn or the money that you have.

So, I believe this issue should be something that's talked about even before the couple decides to settle down. Who works? Who handles the money? How much to spend on personal expenses? Prenuptial agreement or not? It's not an easy topic to handle, however, it is something that needs to be discussed, especially when both parties come from different backgrounds. I should know, I come from a Tsinay, mostly business people family and my husband comes from an Pinoy background of mostly professionals in the family. There's bound to be differences.

It WILL continue to be an issue even after marriage, when one discovers each other's spending habits. It is part of the adjustment in marriage.

The way we handle our money has evolved throughout our marriage. It will continue to evolve throughout the years. While money has caused some discussions and misunderstandings, it has not reached the point where it threatens to break up our marriage. That's because of COMPROMISE and LOVE, and the desire to do and decide the best for the family as a whole.

This is my contribution to Wifespeaks: Speak Friday


JO said...

Here's my inputs on the subject.

Enjoy your weekend!