Tuesday, June 16, 2009

Q&A: Adjusting To Married Life

I got this set of Q&A's from n@w. For a bicultural couple, marriage is quite a challenge, but I guess it does not take just different cultures. The fact that you were raised by different families with different values -- that takes some getting used to.

OK, here goes...

Q1. What was your major adjustment when you started living together after
the wedding?

  • Adjusting to the fact that my money is no longer just mine to spend but part of OUR money. Well, his money is no longer just his to spend but part of OUR money also.
Q2. What was the thing you like most/least about it?
  • Having to ask permission for big purchases because it now affects the family as a whole. For small purchases, we have an allowance for our small luhos (wants).
Q3. Is there something you wish other married couples had told you
  • None that I can think of. Most of the things I encountered after marriage, I already half expected :). I think I was prepared.
Q4. Any tips for other newlyweds living in their new home/with their in
  • If you're going to live with your in-laws, know their house rules and follow them. Don't expect that things will be the same in your in-law's household. Since you're the newcomer, you have to be one to do the major adjusting.