Wednesday, October 27, 2010

The years go by so fast

When I look at hubby's niece, I couldn't believe how much time has passed. I knew her when she was still in elementary and we were still in ophthalmology training. When we got married, she was still in her beginning teens, I believe? Not even needing acne medicine yet and preferring a sleeved design for her junior bridesmaid's gown.

Now, she's a pretty college student who looks very good in shorts and sleeveless blouses and wears them with a lot of confidence. Stilettos look great on her too! I can only look in envy. Sigh. Unless I find the time to work out, I am pretty much stuck with my mommy tummy. I'm also starting to get fine lines on my face too. Double sigh.

While I miss the years that I could get away with eating almost anything and not having to pay for it with extra poundage, I have to accept the fact that I am forty. I am a wife. I am a mother of two. I love my family. I am happy where I am now and I feel blessed to have them in my life.

Sunday, October 24, 2010

Should we go for another baby?

Stress can work either way, by being the best fat burner ever, or by making you even more prone to eat more.

My husband and I were very stressed during the period immediately following the births of our children, more than the usual parent who only had to deal with sleepless nights. Our babies had benign neonatal seizures, although we didn't know what it was during that time. It was very difficult for us to see our small baby having uncontrollable fits. Thankfully, they were benign and had no lasting effects. But my husband lost 30 pounds without meaning to during the first 3 months of our firstborn's life.

Now, are we willing to potentially go through that again? We're thinking of whether or not we should have a Baby number three before "the factory closes down", but should we? Can we afford to support another child?

We're still thinking about it. At least we now have two. Maybe we'll be "given" another child. Maybe not. We'll leave up to the Greater Power to decide if we should have another one.

Saturday, October 23, 2010

A little bit of shopping

Yesterday was a clinic day but the patient load was much much lighter than the past few weeks. I'm guessing it's because of the long weekend and the fact that there are less sore eyes cases nowadays.

It's a good thing my clinic yesterday was in a mall. I was able to do some shopping in between patients, since there were lull moments. Just a few stuff that I had been planning to buy for a while but just haven't gotten around to. I bought jogging pants, T shirts and underwear for my little boy, and some soybeans to make our homemade soymilk. I contemplated whether I should buy wrinkle cream for myself, but I realized I still had some Olay total effects so I just bought pressed powder since I didn't like the current one that I am using.

Believe it or not, I'm not really very fond of shopping unlike most of my female (and male) friends. I do hate to spend! But I do enjoy some retail therapy once in a while. And while I had to go back to the clinic to see patients again, I did enjoy a break from the routine of work.

Thursday, October 21, 2010

Busy nowadays

What kept me busy during the past few months? Basically it's still the usual things --work, being mommy, TRYING to maintain my sideline, studying for my Masters. It's just the same but busier. I now get the older doctors when they say that there's a point that you won't wish for too many patients because sometimes you just want to go home and rest. I'm not at that stage yet. :P

That's why I'm glad I have more patients nowadays. Because that means I'm probably an "effective" doctor and people do get well under me. And the additional earnings are good too, as our little family has more and more expenses, like tuition.

The bonus is that I don't need anything like apidexin to lose weight, since being very busy means I probably burn a lot of fat naturally. I just wish I could find a way to lose my post partum belly which makes me look perpetually pregnant. :P

Wednesday, October 20, 2010

Sore eyes

The past few months, I'm getting a lot of "sore eyes" patients in my clinic. I'm glad more and more people are seeing me for that instead of simply self medicating, which I find is a common thing thereabouts. Oh well. It's because there's a few viruses going around, and people do not exactly have the habit of washing their hands. They do have the habit of rubbing their eyes though. Now do you get the idea how we get the infection?

While a daily multivitamin might help with overall health and would probably lessen the effect of stress, the most effective way of not getting sore eyes is simply not touching your eyes at all unless you have washed your hands.

You do not get sore eyes from staring at somebody with sore eyes. Sore eyes is not airborne. If you got sore eyes, your hands probably had some viruses which it picked up from an object handled by somebody who had sore eyes and didn't wash their hands.

Monday, October 18, 2010

New "old" ideas

Some things our mothers did just made comebacks because they actually make more sense, especially on the issue of being eco-friendly.

For example, I do remember that my mom used to bring along bayongs (woven bags) to the market. Other moms use baskets instead. I do not think that they were thinking "green shopping", that's just the way things were done at the time. Eventually the bayongs and baskets gave way to disposable plastic bags. But now, with the emergence of environmental awareness, plastic bags are becoming less popular and "greener" consumers are now using reusable bags, not necessarily the old bayong but bags that may be used repeatedly a number of times. This is in an attempt to somehow lessen the carbon footprint.

Breastfeeding is another thing that came back into vogue, thankfully. My grandmother breastfed her kids. But my mother is from the seventies. The thinking that time is that formulas for infants are better and the modern way. While it didn't do harm for us in the long term, breastfeeding just makes more sense, especially nowadays when we have more knowledge about its benefits.

I guess what I'm saying is that we should always keep an open mind. What seems to be old ideas may actually be right. Not all, perhaps, but maybe there's some wisdom in them. So don't discount them. But, we should work with whatever facts we have on hand. Some old ideas may not be good too. We should always be discerning, not carried away by some idea just because someone said that. Consider everything -- studies, evidences -- and just do things the best way that we can.

Friday, October 15, 2010

Not a domestic goddess

I remember a few days ago when my mom and some of her visitors had a conversation about education. I was there and we talked about how education has changed through the years. There was a time when girls were required to take up things like sewing, embroidery. Although admittedly these are useful skills and we do need to know about them, I did remember that I was so much better and so much more interested in other things. Give me a computer rather than beading supplies anyday and I'd be much more productive.

I guess that would be due to our differences in personalities. I'm really not the type to stay at home and do the home economics things. But other women (or men) have personalities better suited to these.

I'm glad I'm born in an age when women can actually choose to work or to stay at home. I do not know if I can handle being forced to stay home. I mean, it's different if you have a choice and you just choose to do so, and different if you are not being given a choice at all and simply told that that's your lot and you cannot do anything about it.

But that doesn't mean that I am hopeless in that department. I do know how to cook, to do basic sewing (but I'm not good at it), etc. I can even knit and crochet and embroider, although it's been ages since I've done any of the last three and doubt I'll be doing anything with those skills for quite a while.

Thursday, October 14, 2010

Choose a career, not a job

I always feel that we should really choose the college course that we really have the passion for. While looking for a practical (read: easily hired, high paying) course is something most students will be advised to do, the fact is that demands for the different occupations change throughout time.

A few years ago, IT Jobs were the in thing, and people who are in IT could be sure to get a good paying job. But with positions filled up, new graduates may find that finding a job is not as easy. Nurses were snapped up by foreign employers, and if you happen to be a nurse and a good one at that, there's a good chance that you would be hired by a foreign hospital with a great salary and benefits to boot. Now there's a decline in hiring, due to a lot of factors.

Now, if you chose those courses because you really like them, you would still be able to enjoy them, even if you didn't land a job as well paying as you thought you would. But if you find yourself stuck in a hiring downturn with a degree in something you didn't even like in the first place...I guess you get the picture.

So I always tell people, choose a course based on what you really really want. Don't just choose a course on the basis on what the job market is right now. Four years from now, the picture of the job market may be so vastly different.

Wednesday, October 13, 2010

Breather please

While hubby and I feel that it would probably be a long long time before we get to enjoy a Royal Caribbean cruise, we do wish sometimes that we could get away for a while. I was kidding him that maybe we should check in at a hotel. But for what?

Last month, our clinic had a team building activity in Antipolo which we felt would be somehow a night away from kids and family, but it didn't turn out the way we wanted. The kids got sick. Initially, my mom refused to let me go especially since kids are sick but in the end we kinda got our way. However, we were so worried that we didn't fully enjoy the activities. We did, but I suspect we would have enjoyed them even more if only we weren't so worried.

Barangay elections will be on October 25 and we're thinking of going away, maybe Subic, for an overnight stay, since we are not planning on voting anyway (I know it's bad, but I really do not know any of the candidates so who am I supposed to vote for?). I hope it pushes through. A change of scenery would be really nice. And it would be a treat for the kids too.

Sunday, October 10, 2010

Ting hun

I didn't go through a traditional Chinese engagement ceremony (ting hun) and neither did my brother. In fact, I believe that among my first degree cousins who are now married, none of us went through the traditional ceremony. This is no doubt huge savings on the part of our parents, since the stuff that have to be prepared are quite many and valuable. There are sets of jewelry prepared by both the groom-to-be's and bride-to-be's families. Watches, mostly luxury brands like Omega or Patek are given by the prospective parents-in-law to their child's spouse. Not only given, but there's a ceremony that the elder actually puts the watch on. The girl's father puts a gold watch on his future son-in-law's wrist and the boy's parents does the same to the girl.

It's the time when the couple is introduced as a soon to be married couple. It's a quaint custom and while I do not regret not going through it, I do enjoy seeing others going through the customs that make all these seem much more interesting.

Thursday, October 7, 2010

I'm not a concert person

I am generally a homebody and would prefer staying at home watching my DVDs and reading my books rather than purchasing concert tickets and brave the crowds to watch a live performance. I know people will say that it's really not the same, purchasing lady gaga tickets and being there and seeing her in the flesh, performing live in front of your very eyes, versus simply watching her on TV or purchasing her CD and listening to it over the radio.

I get them. I truly do. It's just not my cup of tea. I don't really have an overwhelming need to see my favorite artists perform live, so even if I do not "experience" such concerts, it really does not feel like a loss to me. For other people, they really do enjoy the whole experience, so I guess that would be money and time well spent -- for them. For me, it would not be money well spent, since I do not foresee myself enjoying myself more than if I just stayed home.

Wednesday, October 6, 2010

My son got his report card for the first time

My son had his first ever report card. We got it last Friday. While we were quite nervous about the results, he actually did much better than we anticipated. Although his grades were not outstanding, I'm gratified that he actually passed all his subjects! His teacher also noted that he generally did a lot better this trimester compared to last trimester. And she's not just talking about academics, which we actually noticed since we also noted via the testpapers and worksheets that were returned.

More significantly, he is improving both socially and emotionally. He no longer roams around the classroom as often as he used to. He actually has friends. He's pretty excited about their outdoor play period, wherein they get to play with the slides, wood swing set and the rest of the playground equipment with his friends. He is also volunteering to recite in class, which he doesn't do before. I guess my little boy is maturing and finding a world beyond the home.

I'm so happy that he's happy with his school. Never mind that it was not my first choice (my main reason would be the lack of Chinese subjects but I've since learned that it's just a temporary thing). I guess my belief that life eventually places you where you have to be is true in this case.

Tuesday, October 5, 2010

Stress the past few days

The stress and the work during the past few days have made me lose quite a bit of weight so I do not need any so-called best weight loss supplement anymore. But I'm glad I've been productive. I'd rather be busy and having an income to answer for our needs rather than idle and not knowing how we'd able to make ends meet. I'm hoping I'd be able to finally, finally complete my Master's education so I can earn a degree and finally get it behind me.


My ama now spends most of her time in Tagaytay. That's because the air there is fresher, it's quieter, and it's cooler, so much so that oftentimes, you do not need an AC to reach a comfortable temperature. In fact, there would be times when you'd think you need outdoor fireplaces as it was so chilly the ubiquitous bulalo becomes full of sebo a few minutes after being served. It's a very relaxing place, and not too much aloe,

The drawback of Tagaytay, in my opinion, is that there is not too much health care facilities to be had. And not too many schools to choose from either.

So even if Tagaytay charms me with its quaintness, I do not see myself living there, especially with 2 active kids. Maybe when there are more facilities in place. Or maybe when the kids have grown.

Monday, October 4, 2010


My grandmother is already 90 years old. She was a very healthy woman despite her age and despite the fact that she had both diabetes and hypertension. She practices tai chi. She walks around the village. I remember when she was in her 70s and 80s and wakes up early to walk around the village. I tried to accompany her but I find that I am actually no match for her! She is a non-smoker, and she drinks only 1 serving of red wine at night for its purported health benefits and also to help her sleep. She had a good appetite, and her food choices are generally very simple. Because of religious reasons, she does not eat beef.

That's why it's difficult for us to see her appetite all gone. She's now very thin, looking like someone who took Diet pills appetite suppressants for a long period of time. We don't really know why. Her attending physician had some diagnostic tests done, but so far, there are no indications on what is wrong with her. Not all the test results have been released, however.

I hope we find the problem soon so that we know how to deal with it. It's heartbreaking to see such a strong woman...well, not so strong anymore. She now looks so weak and vulnerable. She's old, older than most people can hope to be, but I want Ama to be enjoying her 9th decade as healthily and happily as possible, and not felled by something we cannot really understand.

Do get well soon, ama.

Friday, October 1, 2010

Naive about car repairs

Earlier today, my brother texted me to ask if we had jumper cables. I said yes, I think so and he asked where it is, whether it's in my car or in my husband's car. I replied again that I do not know, that he has to ask my husband.

I realize that I am pathetic when it comes to car repairs and such. I probably should only drive within city limits, as I would not now what to do if I do not have a roadside assistance plan. Unlike my husband who knows the basics of car repairs and could do some minor ones without having to look for assistance.

Oh well, this has never been one of my interests anyway. But I'm glad it's something my husband knows about and enjoys to a certain extent. It would not do if we are both clueless regarding such matters.