Sunday, January 2, 2011

Not so sweet

I do not know if it's the rule for Tsinoys, but in my family, the men (and women, too, for that matter) are not really that showy of their affections, especially towards their wives and sweethearts. I mean, a Pinoy would have the usual flowers and chocolates for Valentine's, and even in a long distance relationship, the girl may wake up one day to find Chicago flowers delivered to her even if her guy is not around.  Well, to be fair, it is now much easier to arrange these things, but in all my parents' years of marriage, I can count on the fingers of one hand the times that my father sent flowers to my mom.  I suspect that my grandparents had even less of those floral gifts.

But they did strive to be the best providers that they could be.  Unromantic, but ultimately much more practical.  That is why my grandfathers came to the Philippines, to seek a living and to provide more for their families, since the Philippines at that time was considered a land of opportunity for many Chinese (I believe it still is), and endured all the hardships of being separated from their families.  That was the time before email and the internet.  Mail was slow in coming too.  Money remittances were actually sent through the mail too (not advisable in these times).

Now, the times have continually evolved and so have the Tsinoy men and women.  My dad, although, he was not a flower giving sort of man gave other gifts to my mom -- designer bags, jewelry, perfumes -- which are much more expensive but stick around much longer than flowers.  Younger Tsinoys who are more Westernized already also tend to go the flowers route.  I guess they're sweeter though less practical.  :)